Being a Tantric practitioner and masseuse, I have have specifically worked with men and their bodies, including genitalia, for the last three years. Men's sexual health and vitality is important to me both as a therapist and as a heterosexual woman who wants to protect the gender I am sexually attracted to. If there is anything I can do to protect children of the future, one thing I would like to do is spread the knowledge concerning the effects of circumcision, a quite brutal surgery entailing genital mutilation. Let's call a spade a spade, shall we? Taking an infant at its most sensitive time and chopping off their most erogenous area of the body, inhibiting that human's sexual pleasure for the rest of their lives, is a mutilation and a violation, and is not to be taken lightly. For the time that we have known this procedure to take place our cultures have focused on the positive attributes or sacrificially virtuous attributes of this surgery at the cost of informing us of the negative repercussions of such an invasive operation. The aim of this article is to inform and bring compassion to the issue allowing people to know a holistic and more research data based informed perspective. So here goes. Let's take a deep breath. And let's take three more...
THE SEXUAL EFFECTS BREAKDOWN
Male circumcision is the surgical removal of the foreskin. The foreskin on the average adult male is about 12 sq.in. of highly erogenous tissue. That is not a small amount.
The thing is, it's hard to know what you are missing if you have never had it. For men that have been circumcised as infants, they grow up not knowing that another sensory reality could be possible for their sexual organs. The study reports show that circumcision removes up to a 1/3 of the penile erogenous tissue. 1/3! That is 12 square inches of doubled layer, movable sleeve on the penile shaft, this sleeve provides protection of the glands in the head of the penis, it gives pleasure and it facilitates intercourse. With this sleeve no artificial lubrication is needed. This foreskin contains several specialized nerves. Men that are circumcised in adulthood describe the difference as: ''Seeing in black and white compared to seeing in color.'' So if you have seen all your life in black and white you wouldn't know what you have been missing. So what are you missing? Well, men with foreskins have a much greater sensitivity and sexual response. Without the foreskin protection there is a progressive desensitization of the penile tissue which is now exposed instead of covered. Particular to older men, this is very likely to contribute to erectile dysfunction. A preliminary study showed that circumcised men were 4.5 times more likely to use an erectile dysfunction drug.
THE PSYCHOLOGICAL EFFECTS BREAKDOWN:
Report surveys show that:
HOW TO RESOLVE THE TRAUMA OF CIRCUMCISION?
There is no doubt that such an invasive surgery potentially could leave a human being traumatized whether we are aware of it or not. So what can be done?
1. Start allowing yourself to feel and express your emotions
Feelings must be expressed emotionally. It's not about talking about it. The release of anger is important. Anger is usually the feeling that is on top, the feeling most easily accessible. Once the anger gets released the man can access deeper feelings such as grief and distrust. These are strong feelings that require the support of a therapist or support of another who can facilitate a safe space for the emotional expression. Just talking about it is not going to make a whole lot of a difference. This stuff needs to be felt.
How does the release of these difficult emotions improve a man's sexual pleasure?
You cannot repress anger without repressing all your feelings. A reduced emotional expression will reduce other sensations too as well as sexual sensitivity. As men become more able to express their feelings they open up to also feeling a greater degree of orgasm. Your inability to feel emotions such as grief and anger could be an indicator that the circumcision trauma is inhibiting you from coming alive. If you find yourself easily stuck in an unending abyss of grief and anger, this too can be an indication that energy is not being released from your body. I recommend a De-armoring treatment with me.
2. Restoring foreskin
The idea is to apply persistent tension stretching the existing penile skin over time. This can take months and even up to a couple of years. Although it won't have the original nerves and anatomical features of the original foreskin, men who have managed to achieve this report on improved sexual response and feel better about themselves.
3. Restoring sensitivity through massage
Usually scar tissue is left where circumcision has taken place. It may be unseen, but it should be felt. It may be felt as numbness or as slight discomfort, tingling, pain... Explore the area sensitively, the key is to be super super gentle. To improve sensitivity this scar tissue should be massaged gently, regularly and frequently. Use some oil. Castor oil is great for healing tissue damage. Damaged nerves can be mended unless nerves are totally cut off and numbness is there. Any sensation whatsoever is better than no sensation. Pain is better than numbness. Pain means nerves are still functioning, but damaged, which means something can still be done. Have faith, keep on going with self-care and gentle massage. Do 15min upon awakening or upon going to sleep (ideally both). Even if the area is numb, stick with massaging it for some weeks, preferably months. Sensation and nerves can regrow. It's amazing what the body is capable of doing. Give the damaged nerves gentle attention and you will see as time goes changes will come about.
TANTRIC MASSAGE FOR HEALING CIRCUMCISION TRAUMA
Alternatively, you could seek support with an experienced therapist where all the above points are explored and demonstrated. In my sessions emotional expression and release is a natural part of what takes place, whilst we work with the body. I hold sessions in North West London ranging from 2-4 hours long. Please get in touch for details, I look forward to supporting you in your healing!
Raisa is an Artist, Holistic Massage Therapist and Life Coach supporting individuals and groups to connect more deeply to the power resources found in their bodies and humanity, she specializes in the process of reclaiming and protecting the innocence which may have got burdened by all kinds of nonsense accumulated along the way of this life journey.